When we think of our spouse, or future spouse, we have a list of dreams, hopes and desires that relationship will bring. We do not however consider how our hopes and dreams with them become our expectations of them. In many cases, we do not discuss those expectations our spouse is unknowingly signing up for. So what happens when our hopes, dreams, and desires go unmet? We tend to get and give scars from this relationship as we wonder who we tied the knot with.